Red flag dating rules
They fall in love very quickly, they have never loved anyone like they love you, and you are perfect in their eyes. A narcissist is a con artist and when he finds his “target” he morphs into his “Good 3.They have so many of the same interests, love everything you love, wine and dine you, they can’t get enough of you, more than likely it is the most romantic relationship you have ever had. He wants to know everything about you, is very interested in learning about your childhood, your hopes and dreams, your past relationships.
A decent person does not purposely hurt their ex and if he expects you to participate in vengeful acts against his ex it is a dead give-away that someday you will find yourself in the same boat. Very forceful sexually and wants sex within the first date or two, barely taking no for an answer. To read his resume or hear about his life it all sounds just a little (or a lot) far-fetched. (Leaving you to believe he will be faithful with YOU as long as you don’t falsely accuse him) Whatever went wrong was not his fault, he was the victim, misunderstood.Shortly after I made the call he wanted to drive to the store, but once we were on the road he drove directly to his staff party making it sound like he was surprised the roads weren’t as bad as he thought and we might as well drop by his staff party seeing as we were out anyway.(I was not impressed; I was in jeans because I hadn’t gotten my party clothes on or any makeup, because I wasn’t supposed to be going to a party!If all his ex’s are psycho bitches think about this, ” He is attracted to psycho bitches or he turns women into psycho bitches, either way HE has a problem.” 11. DO NOT give up your independence, it starts slowly, he will sabotage your vehicle, get you fired, ask you to quit work or go into business with him.In his past relationships, at work, even with his family he is always doing all the work, the only one putting in an effort, he is holding the company together or the relationship. Changes jobs many times, gets bored easily, accused of stealing, someone at work is jealous of him and lying about him. Once you lose your job you are dependent on him and it is so much harder to get away. Very early in the relationship he talks in “we” terms, saying things like are “we” going to take the car or the truck (not your car or mine), or let’s go back to “our” place, subtle little things that make you a “couple”.In his past relationships they would roll over and go to sleep but with you it is different.
He will point out that how people sleep is an indication of how “connected” they are.
He on the other hand was freshly showered, always wore jeans anyway and had a nice shirt on) I told him I didn’t want to go, I wasn’t dressed for it and he just said I was beautiful as I was and that we wouldn’t stay long he just wanted to say hi to a few buddies.
We ended up staying most of the night and I felt uncomfortable because I was under dressed and he was the life of the party. His description of relationships with family or friends don’t fit what you experience.
I remember our 3rd date and I walked through the door at his place and he immediately tried to get me into bed, I almost walked out but I didn’t listen to my “gut” and stayed and we did make love. He might even tearfully admit to hitting his ex, but once again it will be tearfully and he was driven to it by her psychotic rages. He is so good-natured you can’t imagine him getting angry about anything and he will tell you how much he hates conflict.
In the beginning he was highly sexual, wanting sex often, 2-3 times a day everyday. They are either between jobs or just started a new job and quite possibly new to town. (Of course his ex was always causing conflict, she bitched at him incessantly about small stuff and brought up things from the past and that is what drove him away, he is planting the seed; he might as well come right out and say; don’t confront me on anything I do because I hate conflict and I will leave you or hit you and some day down the road he will accuse you of being “just like the rest of them”) 16.
Well, let me give you a few, 30 to be exact; dead give-aways you are dating a Narcissist.