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Guardian online dating review

I've read things like, "if you are vain, conceited or selfish don't bother getting in touch", which not only makes you sound bitter and twisted but will also ensure no one ever messages you.I still remember the worst thing I ever read on a dating profile: "As well as a pretty face you should have an intoxicating soul, I want to drown in your aura" which brings me to the next point made by e Harmony.

Profiles that start with "Not sure what I should write here..." are another bugbear of mine.Wading through thousands of options might sound like fun in the beginning but leads to online dating burnout.Lots of sites are free to sign up and browse on but will charge you for 'upgrades' or add-ons to message your matches back or to push your profile to the front of the pile (even free-and-easy Tinder has introduced Tinder Plus with extra options, like an 'undo' button, all available for a small fee).Right now (post-Valentine's Day) is a boom period, driving even more singles to look for love online, so whether you are trying it for the first time or bolstering yourself to give it another go, here's what you need to know.CHOOSING THE RIGHT SITE: London-based Charly Lester started a career in dating accidentally when her 30 Dates blog, chronicling her mission to find love took off. "Think of it like you are looking to date the site as well as the people on it", she says. Avail of free trials, sign up for three months at a time and "dip your toe" until you find one that fits. The last time I dated online I signed up for Guardian Soulmates, because I live in London and it's a newspaper I read, and I don't want to date someone who voted for Tony Blair. For example, Lovestruck is aimed at single professionals while Tinder tends to attract fun-seeking 18-24 years olds.Also, it goes without saying that lying (about your age, height, job or marital status) is a pretty bad way to start.

Long lists of what you are looking for in a partner can be off-putting too.

Dating events are a huge growth area and lots of sites from My Single Friend and Get now organise anything from speed dating and pub quizzes to champagne tasting and cookery classes.

One word of warning here - women tend to buy tickets for these events much more than men, so make sure the event you are going to has an equal ratio.

She's right, I once received a message from a guy online asking why I liked men with 'breads'; I meant beards.

My personal advice when writing your profile is not to be too generic.

You could go niche with sites tailored to single parents, country bumpkins, over-50s, Christians, or men and women in uniform.